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Fishing in British Columbia => General Discussion => Topic started by: fishyfish on September 16, 2007, 03:39:33 PM

Title: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: fishyfish on September 16, 2007, 03:39:33 PM
Has anybody gotten divorced because of the inability to go fishing? I sometimes get out once a week but most often once every two to three weeks. Was it worth it ( to get divorced)? Can not see being able to get out more for another ten years. Would take a HUGE hit financially though. What are your thoughts?
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: Flycastin on September 16, 2007, 04:13:35 PM
Why, does your wife actually have you chained to the house? If you can't get out fishing cause SHE says so, you've married the wrong woman. And there are lots of those types out there. Controlling little weasles. Just give them the Credit card to go shoe shopping and when they have their back turned, high tail it to the local flow. Or fake your own death.  ;D

Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: Fish Assassin on September 16, 2007, 04:19:20 PM
Thinking of getting a divorce so you can go fishing ? Wow !
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: ea187 on September 16, 2007, 06:33:36 PM
wow.  either your wife really sucks or you really like to fish
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: David_R on September 16, 2007, 07:21:23 PM
Ouch, should have married a woman who actually enjoys fishing :)

I don't think divorcing her is not really the first option I'd think of if I wasn't getting enough days on the water, I'd probably start with letting my wife know how much fishing really means to my life and maybe work out some options so you can both enjoy the days (ie, pack up a picknick and take her out, you fish, she sunbathes) and you both enjoy each others company.

Of course if theres no communication to start there might be a bit of a problem.
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: troutbreath on September 16, 2007, 07:43:01 PM
There's more fish in the sea.  I have left or been left by women who thought that making babies was more important than fishing. A sense of conviction to what you really believe is more important than a romp in the sack. But then I don't have any offspring, so I'm like alot of the runs of salmon out there. :-\
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: hotrod on September 16, 2007, 08:59:48 PM
The quality of your life depends on the questions you are ready to ask yourself. Do you want complete happiness in your life and are you willing to do what it takes to achieve this. You marry someone to feel whole inside not when she says it's OK. If fishing is what makes you happy and whole, then it should be accepted. No questions asked. In fact it should be supported because it's a big part of who you are. You see my friend you create, promote and allow things in your life. You have control of this and this only. If you don't go fishing because she says no, then you have to look at yourself because you've allowed this type of behavior in your life.

Be committed, to do what it takes, to have what you want in your life. What do you want?........ and what is it going to take?
If better is possible, is good good enough? and remember successful people do what others don't.

I think that what you've asked here may be  only a slice of the unhappy cake you've been eating for awhile and fishing only part of it.Maybe I'm wrong, if then I apologize on this point You've got to do what is right for you. Take care of yourself so you can take care of others...........................That's the way it should be for the rest of your life.



   Hotrod
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: Nicole on September 16, 2007, 09:11:05 PM
I don't believe in divorce for a matter as trivial as that... If she beat you or cheat on you, that would be grounds...

Why not quit your job, so you have more time to fish? She'll be gone in no time ;)

Cheers,
Nicole
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: ea187 on September 16, 2007, 10:03:23 PM
There's more fish in the sea.  I have left or been left by women who thought that making babies was more important than fishing. A sense of conviction to what you really believe is more important than a romp in the sack. But then I don't have any offspring, so I'm like alot of the runs of salmon out there. :-\


you're nuts for choosing fishing over sex.  that's one of the craziest things i've ever heard
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: ~IvAn~ on September 16, 2007, 10:18:27 PM
yourrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr WHIPPED!!!! ;D ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: testo84 on September 17, 2007, 02:52:23 AM
I don't believe in divorce for a matter as trivial as that... If she beat you or cheat on you, that would be grounds...

Why not quit your job, so you have more time to fish? She'll be gone in no time ;)

Cheers,
Nicole

uh so materialistic

ps : this is personal problem so giving opinion not good solution !
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: Nicole on September 17, 2007, 03:05:51 PM
uh so materialistic

ps : this is personal problem so giving opinion not good solution !

That comment that says "what are your thoughts" is an invitation for an opinion...

And if you're referring to me as materialistic, you couldn't be more wrong.

:)
Nicole
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: mojoman on September 17, 2007, 03:15:19 PM
gee....I always mentioned my need to fish amongst other vices at first meeting....is simple...I go fishin' with you...without you...with you at home..or with you gone on to a better pairing...let 'em know up front about these things....saves on hassles later on in the relationship....as for nookie or fishin'...give the gal your best 30 seconds...then hit the flow.... :D :D :D


mojo no time for folks who impede my fishin' time... ;)
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: gman on September 17, 2007, 04:06:28 PM
If you are a guy with a full time job, a wife and kids, and you fish an average of one day every 2 weeks, then I'd say you're not doing worse than most of the married Dads who love to fish that I know. 

If you find a way to increase your fishing days, without giving up your family or your job, then please let me know... ;D
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: canso on September 17, 2007, 06:53:23 PM
sounds like she needs to go for a "Boat Ride" ;)
Ocean is a crazy place and accidents happen :o
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: Britguy on September 17, 2007, 09:17:41 PM
family must come first
never know when they may not be arround
Quote
Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing; a confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished. -- Goethe
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: fishyfish on September 17, 2007, 09:19:00 PM
Some could say the same about the fish though. How much for a "charter" canso?
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: Britguy on September 17, 2007, 09:21:45 PM
Well my Wife hates fishing but has no problems with me fishing twice a week ;D
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: Riverman on September 18, 2007, 07:23:08 AM
This is an easy situation to oversimplify about.Let me put in my two cents.When my kids were little my wife and I both volunteered up to 30 hours a week with their stuff.Soccer ,gymnastics,baseball etc.I love to fish slightly less than to breathe so this caused conflicts.My advice,compromise as much as you can.Sneak away if it doesn't hurt anything.Above all be patient and communicate.If you truly love one another you will find ways.If not make sure you get all the fishing gear before the final papers arrive! :)
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: hotrod on September 18, 2007, 07:31:32 AM
Britguy! You're the winner if that's so......................Actually so am I, I go fishing sometimes more than twice a week.As long as my household resposibilities are being met then she has no say in the matter except "have a good day honey!"   Of course if it wasn't this way for me she'd be gone!


    Hotrod
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: gheart008 on September 18, 2007, 10:16:49 AM
 :-\ This has got to be the weirdest thread I've ever read....  ???
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: Xgolfman on September 18, 2007, 06:56:08 PM
It shouldn't matter what it is, Mine started with Mt. Biking, road, hockey (again) hunting, hockey, golf and now fishing...She just says it's the flavor of the middle aged...We both cut each other enough space to do what we want when we need too..If you don't have that in your life then it's not a very healthy place to be...But some guys like being whipped..I know a few!!!
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: mastercaster on September 18, 2007, 07:14:46 PM
It's all about compromising.....for example, when my wife and I got married she wanted a cat.  I hate cats so we compromised ....and got a cat.   Get the point?

It's like the tree in the forrest thing and whether it makes a sound if no one is around to hear it but in these terms:   If a man is in a forrest and he says something and no women are around to hear him ....is he still wrong?
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: milo on September 18, 2007, 08:08:34 PM
Never heard of the good old art of communication?
How about talking it over with your wife and telling her how you feel?

If she loves you and wants to keep you, she will certainly cut you some slack and let you head out more often. Perhaps in exchange of some perks for her - they are good at negotiating.

If not, your marriage is doomed anyway.
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: Jaws on September 18, 2007, 08:10:30 PM
Is a dream a lie if it don't come true or is it something worse?
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: hotrod on September 19, 2007, 06:48:24 AM
Create a situation for yourself that's a WIN/Win for both of you and communicaion is the key. If better is possible then is good good enough?



   Hotrod
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: troutbreath on September 19, 2007, 07:32:15 AM
Take her on a fishing honeymoon. :)
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: hotrod on September 21, 2007, 06:25:40 AM
I always say" I don't argue........my wife does"



   Hotrod
Title: Re: Divorced to fish more?
Post by: THE_ROE_SLINGER on September 21, 2007, 01:21:00 PM
........Marry a women who likes fishing!!